When you contemplate your divorce or separation, most of your thoughts likely have to do with what you’ve lost or with needs no longer being met. For instance, you might think about:
- Your lack of stability;
- The fact that you can’t see your kids as often as you would like;
- The child custody battle potentially in your future;
- The feelings of sadness and jealousy you’ll feel when your spouse remarries or dates.
However, remember the maxim: “when God closes a door, He opens a window.” Like it or not, the divorce will create new, potentially useful opportunities for you and your life. For instance, maybe you have been living in a city that you hated. You stayed put for the sake for your marriage, but now you can finally move out to the country.
Maybe you can find another person to love you relatively soon — someone who is healthier, kinder, more attractive or more in turn with values. If you didn’t get divorced, you would never have had that opportunity.
Maybe the divorce will help you develop your resilience and resourcefulness — traits that can carry over to other aspects of your life, such as your business or other relationships.
Maybe the divorce can stimulate more helpful behaviors. For instance, you might decide to go back to the gym, go on a healthful paleo-style diet, take up meditation, etc.
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