Perhaps your wife of 15 or 20 years just left you, and you’re feeling awful and unable to work or do anything productive. Or maybe your ex-husband said brutal things about you to your friends and family, and he’s now actively plotting to minimize your keep of the marital assets.
Whether you or your ex-spouse “did something wrong” or not, you are devastated. You are also at least dimly aware that some science suggests that divorce can have all sorts of negative, nasty effects, not only on physical health but also on employment and financial prospects. It’s easy, when you dwell on the negative, to see all the downsides.
True, a divorce can be unpleasant. But it is not the end of the world. You can take action, starting right now, to manage your diverse divorce-related problems and start rebuilding your life and rethinking your relationships and your destiny. In today’s post and three that will follow, we will offer surprising insights into how to manage better after divorce.
The first insight is that, in divorce, you can never know the so-called “counterfactuals.” How would your life have turned out, if you and your ex-spouse had stayed together? Perhaps you would have lived happily ever, if your husband had not cheated. Or perhaps, he would have cheated again and again — and divorced you 10 years later.
Asking yourself “what if?” can be useful, in that it may stimulate better thinking and planning for the future. But you’re limited in terms of what you can know about futures that never came to pass. For help understanding your legal options after divorce, call the Toussaint Law Firm, PC right now to schedule a free consultation.