President Dwight Eisenhower once made a famous observation based on his experience as a general during World War II. Eisenhower noted that plans are useless, but planning is essential. That sounds like contradictory; but let’s unpack it and use it to help understand why people going through divorces really need to plan effectively.
Here’s what Eisenhower was trying to say. Before you engage in any project – be it a divorce process or an attack on Normandy – you want to assess your strengths, your weaknesses, your threats, and your opportunities. You want to think through all your options, imagine contingency outcomes and develop different strategies. However, once divorce starts, events will undoubtedly happen that will throw your plan way off. Then you will be left on your own resources to improvise. The reason why you bother planning it all is that the act of planning itself prepares you for the improvisation.
Since you will have thought through contingencies, you will be able to draw on this mental knowledge to adapt to changing circumstances. Chess players use the same process. They spend a lot of their time studying openings – the first 10 to 15 moves of the game – but then their opponents can suddenly play a move that knocks them out of their “opening book,” leaving them with just “resourcefulness” to play on. The act of planning – the studying of all those openings – helps them to understand positions and make smarter moves.
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