No one ever said that getting divorced would be easy. But it’s hard to appreciate the complex challenges of separation intellectually. Unless you experience it, you can’t really know what it feels like or brace yourself for what to expect.
It’s natural to experience strong — and strongly shifting — emotions during the process. Divorce doesn’t just make you depressed, anxious, and frustrated — although it can do all those things. It also can prevent you from achieving an even keel and getting perspective on your problems. One day, you might feel happy, because you managed to go through the whole day without thinking about your ex. The next day, your mood may sink after you get a call from your lawyer informing you of a new court date you need to attend.
There may be times even during the back and forth of a normal, healthy divorce process when you might want to throw your hands up and say “I give up.” You may want to give into all of your spouse’s demands, give up substantial marital assets or surrender key deal points in your child custody or support negotiations, just to relieve the aching psychic burden of the ongoing process.
Obviously, this kind of “surrender” is far from strategic, and it won’t serve you well over the long-term. So what can you do about such feelings?
The best answer is to get effective help and to lean on your support network. If you haven’t yet hired a divorce attorney to assist you, please call the team at the Toussaint Law Firm, PC, today, to get the insight you need to rebound and manage the process strategically.