When your time with your kids gets cleaved in half (or even parsed into smaller increments), you want to make “time count.”
One way to do this, strategically, is to establish a regular time with the kids to discuss concerns and questions about the family, the divorce and the business of the household.
For instance, let’s say that you get the kids from Thursday through Sunday. You might designate Friday night as “family meeting night.” You and your kids sit down at the dinner table to eat a great meal (or maybe order take out to make things easier) and discuss anything that’s on anyone’s minds. This hour should be time when the kids (and you) can freely speak without worrying about being judged or punished. You might even want to write down the key points of the meeting and share the “minutes” with your kids via email, if they are old enough. At the end of the meeting, reward everyone for a “meeting well done” by watching a movie or having desert. In other words, cap the process with something that everyone loves.
By creating this “family council approach,” you will head off issues before they become big problems and keep everyone informed about critical matters. This process will reduce confusion and help everyone feel safer and more in control during complicated times.
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