If someone asked you right now about why you’re getting divorced — or why you and your ex are fighting over child custody — you’d probably have a pretty compelling narrative to explain what’s happened. For instance, you might say something like “money problems drove us apart.” Or perhaps “we had a clash of values over how to raise the kids, which created fundamental tensions that ultimately could not be resolved.”
These stories we tell ourselves about why things are the way they are have a name — they’re known as “just so” stories. They are narratives. But the question is: how much truth do they really have? Do they really describe reality? Are you subconsciously filtering out important information or giving too much importance to certain aspects of the situation?
Unfortunately, human beings are generally not very good at being able to see their situations objectively. Social scientists have catalogued literally dozens of biases and blinders that prevent us from seeing reality clearly — these biases prevent us from thinking accurately and taking accurate action to overcome our challenges.
In today’s post and a few that will follow, we are going to talk little bit about why these blinders occur and how to get past them so that you can manage your divorce and your child custody case. At the end of the day, you want results – not excuses or just-so stories.
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