Perhaps your husband of three years decided to get divorced, because he didn’t want children, and you do. Or maybe you split in an acrimonious fashion three months ago. In either case, you’re trying to get a handle on what you need to do to feel back in control.
Here’s one key question to address: how should you and your ex “divide up” your friends.
Splitting up a marriage often means more than just figuring out who gets the kids and who gets what share of the marital assets and estate. It also means recalibrating relationships with mutual friends and family members. For instance, maybe your best friend from college became really close with your husband over the years. She may want to remain friends with him, against your wishes.
Who “owns” a friendship? The law doesn’t offer much help. Divorce law offers constraints about when and how spouses can see their children as well as how the marital estate should be divided up. But it does not offer extensive guidance about how to “divvy up” friendships.
Furthermore, consider this: most married couples have three or fewer children. But odds are that you and your spouse share many friends in common – perhaps dozens. Your friends are also highly autonomous. Unlike your children, they don’t have to listen to you, and they can make their own judgments and decisions.
We’ll unpack this problem in upcoming posts. For now, if you need help with your case, contact the Toussaint Law Firm, PC to discuss your options and possible strategies.