Why does a radical family split create so much confusion, agitation, and other negative emotions for everyone caught in the middle of the maelstrom?
The answer may have to do with the fact that such a split creates a lot of unprocessed obligations for everyone involved. In other words, the breakup of the family is not just an emotionally wrenching event; it’s also an event that creates a lot of projects and “to dos” for people to process. That’s a problem because most people don’t know how to manage their obligations and stay balanced and feeling in control. You, for instance, already have “way too much on your plate.” A divorce or child custody battle just adds tons more for you to handle.
So how can you regain control of your projects, your space, and your life?
One of the best exercises is to simply list everything on your mind out on paper. When you hold projects and obligations in your head, you’re going to exhaust yourself, much like you’d exhaust a computer by trying to hold all of your files in its RAM.
The brain is a great place to think about what to do about your life – it’s just not great at storage.
So here are your action items: after you finish this blog post, cordon off about 3 or 4 hours of time, open up a Word document and start to list everything on your mind that you have to do or want to do. Record mundane stuff, like “get new rolls of toilet paper” and “fix the stapler,” as well as high minded ideas like “plan a trip to France” and “finalize the divorce.”
By getting this catalogue of commitments on paper, you’ll see that they’re not infinite, and that you’re probably not as overwhelmed as you believe you are. Call the Toussaint Law Firm, PC right now for help managing your child custody or divorce case.