A divorce is incredibly stressful not just for the two people getting divorced but also for the children involved – at least during the initial months after the split.
Is that necessarily bad or dangerous?
The idea that “stress causes health problems” is such a deeply engrained “truism” in our culture that few people stop to question it. Does legitimate research back it up? The truth is that research suggests that stress, in and of itself, may not be that bad for us. Our relationship to stress – whether we think of stress as harmful or not – CAN affect health outcomes.
The moral is: just because a divorce creates stress does not mean that the stress will harm you or your family. Also, don’t just blindly accept conventional wisdom about a topic.
For another example, consider nutrition science. For years, we have been taught that saturated fat causes heart disease. Yet a new meta analysis (a study of many studies) published in February 2014 found that saturated fat definitively does NOT cause heart attacks. Instead, researchers now believe that refined sugar and carbohydrates might be more to blame.
The point is that if you are concerned about harming your child — worried that the divorce will create stress or other problems — avoid making yourself crazy. Just stay observant, pay attention to the problems that are actually problems, and get appropriate help for what you need, when you need it. To that last point, if you haven’t yet retained a divorce or child custody attorney, call the Toussaint Law Firm, PC immediately to schedule your free consultation with us.