You’re stressed about the break up of your family — perhaps you’re particularly worried about one significant relationship. Maybe you worry about what the split will do to your daughter. You love her very much, and you’re worried that she could “side with her mom” or something along those lines.
Rather than get hung up in useless thinking, introspect more effectively. Here’s what to do. Isolate the main problem and then ask yourself why that’s a problem. Then ask yourself why THAT problem is a problem. Repeat this process until you surface the real issue that’s troubling.
Let’s go through an example:
“I’m really upset that my daughter said she wanted to stay with her mom.”
Why is she saying that?
“Because she’s really a “mommy’s girl,” and she always sides with her mother and against me.”
Why does she do that?
“Well, she’s just genetically and personality-wise like her mother, and she’s inclined to think and say the same types of things.”
In this example, we only need to get “three levels deep” to arrive at a fundamental truth. It doesn’t solve the situation, but it does explain it better. In the hypothetical example, your daughter just simply has a genetic, natural affinity for her mother. Just knowing that can help you accept certain realities about your situation and be smarter and more compassionate.
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