Life waits for no one. We often must confront multiple crises at the same time, even when we’re not emotionally, financially or even physically ready to meet such challenges. In today’s post and several to follow, we’ll examine common crises that face newly divorced people and give you tools for how to “fight a war on multiple fronts.”
Today, let’s consider a sad but all too common issue: what if your parents go through a health crisis, while you’re embroiled in a complex divorce/child custody battle?
It’s challenging enough to have your routine and life disrupted by divorce. It’s exponentially more tricky to keep things together if you’re also managing your parents’ emergency care or long term chronic health problems.
First things first, get clear on your obligations and commitments. Do this before you try to prioritize anything. Write down all your commitments on a piece of paper. Then go through each action item and figure out what you’d do next, if that project were the only thing on your plate. For instance, let’s say your mom just had a stroke. Your “next action” might be to call your Uncle Steve to discuss her care. Or maybe you’re frustrated by your spouse’s behavior during a recent child custody hearing. Your “next action” might be to draft an email to your attorney about your fears.
Engage in this process fully — i.e. document everything on your mind and all of the next actions you need to take on each of your projects. You will feel much less out of control and more able to get a handle on what needs to be done. Call the team here at the Toussaint Law Firm, PC today for a free evaluation regarding your divorce.