Whether your husband left you suddenly by announcing that he was “no longer in love,” or your wife and you split after months of fruitless therapy, you face a peculiar and vexing problem: how much of your “family business” should you share with other people in your life? What should you tell your friends, family members and work associates?
The answer will depend on a huge number of factors, including:
- The nature of the “family drama” in your household;
- Your comfort level with any disclosure;
- The amount of time that has elapsed since the separation;
- The degree to which you want or need to protect your children’s privacy;
- Constraints created by the divorce process itself.
Two forces are pushing you in two different directions:
On the other hand, you need support. You would love to be able get perspective and hear comforting words from people you trust.
On the other hand, you also need privacy. You might be reticent to share humiliating or just depressing details.
Your desire to talk about the divorce indicates real needs, but you can meet those needs with different strategies. You don’t need to involve everyone in your family business. For instance, you might want to work with a therapist or contact an experienced divorce attorney with the Toussaint Law Firm, PC, to help you approach your situation strategically.