Today, we are going to address a particularly situation that commonly dissolves marriages. What if your spouse left you after confessing to committing adultery?
This revelation can challenge you on every level. First of all, it might challenge your concept of trust. Perhaps you had been married for years – and had what you had believed to be a loving, timeless union. The revelation can also challenge your sense of fairness, rob you of companionship, and create incredibly strong feelings of anger and resentment both towards your spouse and towards the person with whom he or she cheated.
In fact, the situation can be even more emotionally and intellectually complicated. Perhaps the person was not a stranger but rather a friend or business associate — or even a family member. You may need to see this person on a regular basis. And what if that person ends up remarrying your spouse or even playing a role bringing up your children?
It’s easy in this situation to make the problem worse by lashing out in a juvenile fashion or, conversely, by closing up and doing nothing. As painful as it sounds, you want to be able to surface your feelings and try to understand your core needs. In the wake of the revelation of infidelity, what is it you really need?
By articulating these needs – rather than repressing them or acting impulsively on them – you’ll be off to a good start.
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