The divorce process can challenge even the most emotionally stable people, because of its incredibly personal nature, its complexities, and its unexpected and often negative surprises.
As an adult, however, you’re supposed to know better than to let your emotions “get away from you.” From a practical point of view, maintaining control of your emotions makes sense, since you don’t want to say or do things that could compromise your case or inspire your spouse to take certain legal actions against you.
If you act in an impulsive or dangerous way, the court may strip or limit your child custody rights, for instance. When your emotions get out of control under the wrong circumstances, your divorce strategy can be totally thrown off. Nonetheless, mistakes can and do happen. If you did engage in some kind of outburst, you want to repair things as soon as possible.
Perhaps, for instance, you yelled at your children unprovoked. Now, you feel really guilty and sad. You also worry how that outburst might redound to impact your child custody negotiations. To handle the situation, consider setting aside time to make a formal apology. Listen to your children tell their side of the story, and reflect their emotions back to them.
Or maybe you said something to your ex that you now regret or did something in court or in some other venue that might have damaged your case. Talk to your attorney about what happened. Be completely disclosing. Explain what happened, why you did it, and what you would like the next outcome to be. Unfortunately, there is no way to turn back the clock. What happened, happened. But you can take steps to regain control over the process and restore your relationships… or at least prevent them from going further downhill.
Call the team here at the Toussaint Law Firm, PC for a confidential consultation; we can help you move forward and get your divorce and child custody negotiation process back on track.