Rather than get caught up in the chaos of your family situation, first, follow these two steps.
Step 1: Get a clear, objective sense of what’s going on in your family, what the problems are, where you need help, what’s working, what not, etc.
Step 2: Identify an ideal solution to those problems.
When you’re going through Step 1, try to be as objective as possible – as if you’re taking a picture of events with a camera, or as if you’re a dispassionate bureaucrat writing about what’s happening as opposed to what different people are feeling.
Stick to facts, not opinions. Instead of saying “my stepson’s a liar,” write exactly what he did to prompt that observation. Perhaps note something along the lines of “my step son stole a computer from school and told us his friend took it, instead.”
When it comes to Step 2, focus on ideal end points – don’t worry about all the details about how to get there. For instance, you might say something like “I am no longer living with my step son,” even though you don’t know exactly how you’ll achieve that goal.
Starting over after breaking up a complex family can be disorienting and frustrating. For instance, you may have grown attached to your ex’s stepchildren. Or you may feel just generally weighed down with emotional baggage. Part of the key to getting control after a complex emotional family situation is to regulate your own emotions. If you’re stressed all the time, consider spending 10 to 15 minutes a day just breathing and introspecting (a great habit of Benjamin Franklin, the country’s first “life hacker.)” Take action to manage yourself and your own problems, rather than worrying about the complicated, dynamic relationships in your life.
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