For today, let’s just stop and reflect on the extent of the complexity in your family. Right now, you’re probably feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, and maybe depressed because you have an impending separation or family law issue, and you’re not really sure how to relate to various family members. There is a reason for that: the sheer number of relationships in your family!
Let’s imagine that there are seven people living in your home – a grandmother, an aunt who is sick and on disability, you, your husband, two of your own biological children, and one child from your husband’s first marriage. All total, “7” doesn’t seem like a huge number. But think about all the relationships that are going on at your home.
The disabled aunt, for instance, has six relationships of her own – one with the mother, one with you, one with your husband, and one with each of the kids. You have six of your own. Not counting the redundant relationships (i.e. your relationship with the aunt is same as your aunt’s relationship with you, for the purposes of this thought experiment), the total number of relationships in your home is 6+5+4+3+2 – for a grand total of 20!
And that figure just counts the interpersonal relationships. It doesn’t even begin to address the internal struggles that all seven of you experience. (Add this to the total, and it becomes 27!)
The point is that, if you’re confused about your family’s dynamics and overwhelmed, you’re not alone, and your struggles make a tremendous sense just based on the math.
Call the Toussaint Law Firm, PC today for a free consultation to figure out exactly how to approach your complex family divorce in a way that’s ethical and thorough.