Whether you are about to head home for your 20th high school reunion or you’re meeting with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend for coffee, you might be feeling embarrassed about the troubles you’ve been having in your marriage. Perhaps you’ve already decided to separate – or your spouse decided to separate from you – and you don’t know how to handle the anxiety, frustration, and agitation you feel whenever someone asks how the process is going. Most people shrug off this embarrassment as an inevitable but ultimately harmless consequence of separation. But it can lead to chronic, annoying, and destructive problems, such as:
- Hesitation to get support you need (e.g. therapy, therapeutic conversations with friends, help from an experienced family law attorney). Your shyness may actually hurt your ability to get things done regarding the divorce.
- Lack of self-examination can perpetuate problems. As the old saying goes, if you don’t learn from history, you’re doomed to repeat it. The degree to which you can take an objective, clear look at what went wrong in your marriage is the degree to which you’re likely to avoid bad situations in the future.
- Negative emotions can take a toll on your health, wellbeing, and resilience. Embarrassment often masks feelings of sadness, frustration, and other emotional wounds. Left unaddressed, negative emotions can create ill health and lead you to make unwise or inept decisions about your future and your divorce case.
For help dealing with the nuts and bolts of your divorce, contact the Toussaint Law Firm, PC immediately to schedule a free consultation with us.