What if, during your divorce, your spouse somehow “turns” your kids against you? What if the divorce winds up ruining your relationships with your kids for years or perhaps even for the rest of their lives?
These fears are certainly terrifying, particularly since you love your children dearly. You need fairness, and you want your children to understand the truth. It would be devastating and quite painful to lose their faith. However, even if such a terrible outcome happened, on a day-to-day basis, it would not affect you that much.
Yes, your children might grouse you when they visit you. Yes, they might not visit you much after they leave for school (or work). But during most of your life – on a day-to-day basis – you can still set the tone and control your destiny. For instance, maybe you will wind up marrying into a second family and falling in love with your stepchildren and having great relationships with them. Or maybe you will get remarried and have other kids and develop nurturing, successful relationships with them. Or maybe you will dedicate your life to charity or some other wonderful cause and receive appreciation and validation from that. The point is that you won’t have to live with anger, shame, and frustration as day-to-day companions, even if deep lingering sadness remains.
Of course, that’s just the absolute worst case scenario! There is probably no reason to fear that such a scenario will remotely come to pass. Call the team here at the Toussaint Law Firm PC for a free and confidential consultation about your case.