You’ve been thinking a lot recently about a military divorce or separation. Whether you returned home from overseas, only to discover that your wife (or husband) had been having an affair; or your wife or husband returned from active duty a changed person (and not in a good way), you feel trapped and uncomfortable. The big question for you is: can your marriage be saved?
The answer will depend on elements that may be challenging to think about, including:
1. Your history together. How long have you been married? How close were you before? How strong was your love?
2. The root cause of what’s driven you apart. Was your husband hurt in the war? Did you simply “fall out of love” while he was deployed? Did your wife suddenly become more withdrawn, after she returned from service? Have you had a personal epiphany about a new direction that you want to take for your life? Get clear about the root problem, so you can figure out a strategy. You may want to talk to a counselor or a trusted spiritual leader for help.
3. Is the problem due to circumstance or due to something fundamental about the marriage? For instance, perhaps your family is struggling because you can’t pay the bills, or because you’ve got several young children who need constant attention. These factors may be transient. For instance, your kids won’t always be young and needy, and you someday can feel more financially secure. Perhaps your husband or wife’s war injury is temporary – it may be treatable using medication, therapy, or time. Or maybe the problem is more fundamental. For instance, you no longer love him or her, or you have different visions for the future.
For help understanding your rights and options regarding military divorce and separation, connect today with the team here at the Toussaint Law Firm, PC for a free consultation.