Here’s our final post on misconceptions people have about working with divorce attorneys.
Misconception #6: “My attorney will help me figure out what I want.”
It is always dangerous to hand over too much agency to others — even to people who are trustworthy, talented, and experienced. An attorney can explain your options and help you figure out strategies and tactics to succeed in negotiations. However, an attorney cannot tell you how you should live your life. This theoretical point is hugely important to understand.
After all, if you don’t understand your goals during a divorce, it’s very difficult for anyone (even for the most skillful lawyer) to get you the results you want. To determine your goals and values, imagine “turning over the keys” of the whole divorce process to someone else. What warnings would you give that person? What would be on your “must get done” list? Answer those questions, and you’ll be closer to getting the clarity you need.
Misconception #7: “My attorney is the first person I should call in the event of violence.”
If your ex gets hostile or violent, call the police. An attorney is not the person to call. In fact, if you did call your attorney, he or she would tell you to hang up and call the police!
Understand what your attorney can do for you and what the attorney’s limitations are, and you will be much better off. Along those lines, get familiar with how your attorney and his or her staff work. Use their established systems and processes to ensure that you get the answers you need, when you need them.
For help dealing with your divorce, child custody, or other family law issue, talk to the team at Toussaint Law Firm, PC today for a confidential free case evaluation.