Here are three more common misconceptions many people have about how to work with divorce lawyers. Let’s expose them, so you can make more strategic decisions.
Misconception #4: A good attorney can do all the necessary thinking for you.
An attorney can make sure that you file the right paperwork on the right dates; organize an effective legal strategy, know your finances, and manage negotiations smartly. However, don’t be lazy! Spend time thinking about what happened in your relationship, journaling, talking to your therapist (if you have one), and otherwise “doing your homework” to understand what went wrong and what you can do to avoid problems in future relationships. Use your attorney as a coach and a guide, but be sure to think critically about your life.
Misconception #5: My attorney will anticipate all my questions and answer them preemptively.
Few people actually consciously think this. But many clients unconsciously make this assumption. Attorneys are not mind readers. If you have questions, frustrations, fears or hopes on your mind, voice them.
Here’s a good trick to get your questions heard and answered. Whenever you have thoughts about the divorce or about your case, write them down on an index card. Prior to meeting with your attorney, compile your thoughts on a Word document and/or email them to your attorney (whatever he or she prefers).
Make a habit out of this practice. Whenever your mind wanders to your case, write down your concerns, so you won’t have to manage them “in your head.”
For help understanding your options in your divorce, connect with the team at the Toussaint Law Firm, PC today for a free consultation.