Getting divorced is stressful, but you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse really want to engage in this process in a simple, easy, “low drama” way. Unfortunately, you might make one of these three mistakes and complicate your situation.
1. Having unrealistic expectations about how the divorce process works.
Sure, you may want to wrap up your divorce in three months and avoid litigation at all costs. But if you go into the process with unrealistic expectations about what the process can accomplish or about what your spouse might be willing to do, you set the situation up for failure. Such frustration can spark fighting and break down negotiations.
2. Lacking flexibility.
As any expert negotiator will tell you, one of the keys to resolving a conflict is to invent options. You need to seek flexible ways to meet the needs of all stakeholders. If you or your spouse adopts an overly rigid stance about what can or cannot happen during the divorce, fighting may be inevitable. Try to “expand the pie” and invent options for how you and your spouse can both get what you need.
3. Not defining a clear line between what you want and what you really need.
For instance, you might want to keep the beautiful china that your great aunt Patrice gave you and your wife for your wedding. But you don’t necessarily need it. On the other hand, you definitely do need cash flow to support yourself and your children. Pick your battles wisely, so you don’t have to end up fighting too many.
For help navigating the details of your divorce, contact the team here at the Toussaint Law Firm, PC, for a confidential consultation.